Narcissistic Traits – They Will Trash You If You Reprove Them

As mentioned earlier, “scoffer” is one name to describe narcissists who act with “insolent pride”.  Therefore, we can learn more about the characteristics of a narcissist by seeing what the Bible says about scoffers.


This comparison list focuses on the narcissistic characteristic of absolutely hating to be told they are wrong in any way, shape, or form.

 

Level

Scoffer (Insolent Pride) Trait

Narcissism Trait

1

Proverbs 15:2 – A scoffer does not love one who reproves him, he will not go to the wise

A narcissist will first avoid situations where he may be told he is doing something wrong…..no matter how wise the “reprover” might be

2

Proverbs 13:1 – “…A scoffer does not listen to rebuke”

But if a narcissist somehow does find himself in position of being rebuked, he will refuse to listen.  Have you ever tried to rebuke a narcissist?  He will ignore you, verbally fight you, tell you why you are the one who is wrong – anything to keep from admitting that they may be wrong.

3

Proverbs 9:8 – “Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you..”

Proverbs 26:24-26 – “He who hates disguise it with his lips, but he lays up deceit in his heart.  When he speaks graciously, do not believe him, for there are seven abominations in his heart.  Though his hatred covers itself with guile, his wickedness will be revealed before the assembly.”

Not only will a narcissist refuse to listen, but he will also hate you for reproving him.

He will disguise his hatred, and even speak graciously to you, but when he has the chance to trash you publicly he will take it.

4

Proverbs 9:7 – “He who corrects a scoffer gets dishonor for himself…”

This results in a narcissist trashing your reputation – a narcissist will not hesitate to trash the reputation of those who try to correct them – resulting in dishonor to you for daring to correct them.

So, if it’s not a good idea to rebuke a narcissist, what do you do?  There are other ways to deal with them…. we’ll be exploring those in future blogs.

5 responses

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  3. I have experienced the wrath of a narcissist for many years where this person who was a former friend interfered with my long term boyfriend, friendships, and even in my family. Many times I was unaware that this person was linking onto people in my life or having this disturbing secret competition against me. I was naive and ignored when she openly flirted with my man of 6 years when she was my friend as if somehow if she stalked, took on my personality traits, and smearing me would make us permanently break up or make her more desirable to him. Its been a nightmare. I was stalked, weird copycat of my personality and life, malicious smear campaigns, and lies to damage me. I didnt handle things well all the years it occurred but because I am blessed that I know who I am in Christ I would just take each hurt and loss and move on with the realization that this person is extremely lost and delusional..sadly even when disconnected only for the stalking and narcissist abuse to disturbingly show up in another form. I have tried various ways to disconnect especially because I am a mom and even when it has meant losing loved ones, my livlihood, and friends that knew this person. Even when I am angry, hurt, or in fear I pray daily for this person and the people that she dupes into following her. Do you have any information on how to handle a smear campaign or disconnect

    • Thanks much for your comments. I am still wrestling through many of the practical “how to’s” myself. But I know from experience that defending yourself yourself in the face of a smear campaign rarely works. My personal bias is to let my actions speak for themself, and let the Lord defend me. “Wisdom is vindicated by her deeds” (Matt 11:19). I know that approach is not popular in today’s political environment, but God’s ways are higher than man’s. Here’s something else that might help @ http://rickwarren.org/devotional/english/criticized-trust-god-to-defend-you

  4. STOP!!!LET GOD FIGHT THIS BATTLE FOR YOU.ITS WHAT GOD TOLD ME TO DO AND WHEN I STOPPED TRYING TO GET OTHERS TO SEE MY POINT,HIM FOR WHAT HE WAS, HIS LIES,ETC… WHEN I STOPPED AS GOD TOLD ME TO. THINGS BEGAN TO MAKE A WHOLE LOT MORE SENSE THAN ME TRYING G TO EXPLAIN IT BECAUSE ALL YOU WILL BE DOING IF YOU CONTINUYTI TRY AND FIGHT A NARC IS FEED INTO WHAT THEY HAVE TOLD OTHERS BEHIND YOUR BACK, THAT YOU ARE CRAZY AND DELUSIONAL EVENTHOUGH,IT IS TRULY HIM.EVERYTHING WILL BE YOUR FAULT,THEY DON’T ACCEPT BLAME OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR NOTHING THEY DO. SO,STOP,GIVE IT TO GOD AND STEP OUT ON FAITH AND KNOW THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT BECAUSE IT IS IN ACCORDANCE TO THE MASTER’S PLAN.BLESSINGS AND PEACE TO ALL.

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