4 How blessed is the man who has made the Lord his trust, And has not turned to the proud, nor to those who lapse into falsehood.
[See here for the full context]
In our zeal to get something done, or out of desperation to resolve a situation we sometimes look for help in the wrong places. And the result may be that we find ourselves worse off than before. This can be especially true of reaching out to narcissists (insolent pride / proud / haughty / scoffers) for help. There are practical reasons why God warns us not to reach out to narcissists:
- The narcissist will many times “get it wrong” (see here and here)
- God is fundamentally opposed to a narcissist’s pride, so HE is not likely to bless the work of their hands (James 4 and here)
- Narcissists are unreliable (Psalm 5)
- Narcissists have a self-centered agenda, so they will turn things around from helping you to somehow helping or glorifying themselves – while making a big show about helping (Proverbs 25:14 and here and here)
- Narcissists will likely try to take over – but only to the extent that they can command you what to do, not to the extent of actually helping (see here)
- The Narcissist will likely create much more conflict than any actual help they provide (see here)
- Narcissists will make sure to tell you that they themselves would never have gotten into the situation that you’re in (see here)
But there are also other reasons “why” God wants to turn to Him in our time of need, rather than to an arrogant human. More about this when we more fully address the “why” question.
- Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here