Dealing With Narcissists* – They Ultimately Don’t Get Away With It


Those who have been hurt by a narcissist that appears to “get away with it” can really struggle with bitterness and a deep desire for “justice” to be done.  This often results in a continued obsession with the narcissist and what he/she has done  – and a corresponding inability to “move on”.

One aspect of coming to a point of peace in what happened to you at the hands of the narcissist, is understanding clearly that in the end narcissists “don’t get away with it”.  As narcissists are pros at shifting blame, covering up, lying their way out of things, making you think it was your fault, etc. they may appear to get away with it.  Especially as they just flippantly move on to their next target.  But it says,


Romans 12:19 – Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.
This came from Deuteronomy
Deuteronomy 32:35 – “Vengeance is Mine, and retribution, In due time their foot will slip;”
God claims ultimate retribution on people as being his turf, not ours.    One reason He claims this turf for Himself is that He’s better at executing justice than we are.  And by letting Him handle the “vengeance” part, we can focus more on the forgiveness part – which is essential to our ultimate healing.
And He promises that He will do it.  So part of turning retribution over to Him, is to believe that when He says He will handle it, that He will.  Of course to accept God’s statement requires an acceptance of the reality of God and who He is.  Without that, you’re on your own, and will likely find it difficult to ever fully heal from the wounds which the narcissist inflicted.
But, in fact, whether you believe it or not, God’s going to do execute justice anyway – because He said He would.  You just won’t have the benefit of the internal peace that comes from knowing it.
But what God did not say, is that He will execute justice in the way we want, or in the timing we want.  So, when we turn it over to Him, we also need to let Him do it His way, and in His timing.   And His justice may come in eternity, and not in time.  It may be 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years in coming, but it will come.   Narcissists are ultimately on a slippery slope….

Psalm 73:16-20

16 When I pondered to understand this,
It was troublesome in my sight
17 Until I came into the sanctuary of God;
Then I perceived their end.
18 Surely You set them in slippery places;
You cast them down to destruction.
19 How they are destroyed in a moment!
They are utterly swept away by sudden terrors!
20 Like a dream when one awakes,
O Lord, when aroused, You will despise their form.

*  “Narcissism” is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride”  please see here for a further explanation

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