Narcissistic* Traits – They Lack Perspective On What’s Important

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Matthew 23:23-24

Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cummin, and have neglected the weightier provisions of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness; but these are the things you should have done without neglecting the others. 24 You blind guides, who strain out a gnat and swallow a camel!

[Please see here and here on how we know that the Pharisees were narcissists* with insolent pride]

[Note:   Mint, and dill, and cummin were tiny things.  To obsess on tithing at such a small level, while ignoring the very important things showed a real lack of perspective on what was important]

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Narcissists* often lack a sense of proportion or perspective on the relative importance of things.  They can easily take the most minute detail and blow it up into the MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER.   There are may be three reasons for this:

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One is that narcissists usually make whatever they are thinking about “the most important thing ever”, whether it is actually important or not.  It is “the most important thing ever” simply because the narcissist is focused on it.

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A second and possibly more important reason is that they will try to use “excellence” in some minor detail as a cover for complete failure on the bigger responsibility which lies before them.  That is what the Pharisees were doing.  And they will exaggerate the importance of the minor detail to make it more important that the actually important thing.  They do this in order to justify their neglect of what is actually important.

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A third reason is that narcissists lack the wisdom to distinguish between important and non-important.

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Proverbs 14:6 – A scoffer seeks wisdom and finds none, But knowledge is easy to one who has understanding.
Another way to describe this lack of perspective is to say that narcissists* lack good judgment.

 

 

 

 

* Narcissist is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride”.  Please see here for an explanation.

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