Narcissistic* Traits – They Pour Fuel on Fires

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As discussed here and here, the core of narcissism is insolent pride.
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And, one “name” for someone with insolent pride is “scoffer” (see here for a more full description)……
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Proverbs 21:24 – “Proud,” “Haughty,” “Scoffer,” are his names, Who acts with insolent pride.
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Scoffers are contentious…….
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Proverbs 22:10 – Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out, Even strife and dishonor will cease.
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[If you get rid of the scoffer, you get rid of the the contention – therefore it logically follows that the scoffer was the source of the contention.]
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Proverbs 13:10 – 10 Through insolence comes nothing but strife, But wisdom is with those who receive counsel.

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Therefore, narcissists are naturally contentious.  This makes sense, as narcissists are typically “fighting” or “contending” for supremacy and/or to get what they want (James 4).  And they are irritated and angry at everyone and everything when things do not go their way.
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One characteristic of contentious people is that they add “fuel to the fire” in creating strife
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Proverbs 26:21 – Like charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, So is a contentious man to kindle strife.
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The Hebrew term for kindling in this verse is translated “kindling” (throwing a lit match onto fuel) here, but in Jeremiah is translated with an image of bellows (blowing air on a lit fire to make it hotter).   See http://biblehub.com/hebrew/2787.htm  for a more complete discussion.
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So, a contentious person will either take use the “seeds” of a conflict and turn it into a real conflict, or take an existing small conflict and make it a full blown conflict.
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Logically, Narcissist >> Insolent Pride >> Scoffer >> Contentious >> Strife Creator or Builder.
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In addition to creating strife in their pursuit of dominance, winning, or getting what they want, narcissists may also sometimes add fuel to the fire just to show that they have the power to jerk people around.  So if you see a lot of drama or conflict, take a look around for someone with narcissistic traits.
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