Dealing With Narcissists* – David’s Prayer for Justice


Psalm 94

94 O Lord, God of vengeance,
God of vengeance, shine forth!
Rise up, O Judge of the earth,
Render recompense to the proud.
How long shall the wicked, O Lord,
How long shall the wicked exult?
They pour forth words, they speak arrogantly;
All who do wickedness vaunt themselves.
They crush Your people, O Lord,
And afflict Your heritage.
They slay the widow and the [d]stranger
And murder the orphans.
They have said, “The Lord does not see,
Nor does the God of Jacob pay heed.”

Pay heed, you senseless among the people;
And when will you understand, stupid ones?
He who planted the ear, does He not hear?
He who formed the eye, does He not see?

10 He who chastens the nations, will He not rebuke,
Even He who teaches man knowledge?
11 The Lord knows the thoughts of man,
That they are a mere breath.

12 Blessed is the man whom You chasten, O Lord,
And whom You teach out of Your law;
13 That You may grant him relief from the days of adversity,
Until a pit is dug for the wicked.
14 For the Lord will not abandon His people,
Nor will He forsake His inheritance.
15 For judgment will again be righteous,
And all the upright in heart will follow it.
16 Who will stand up for me against evildoers?
Who will take his stand for me against those who do wickedness?

17 If the Lord had not been my help,
My soul would soon have dwelt in the abode of silence.
18 If I should say, “My foot has slipped,”
Your lovingkindness, O Lord, will hold me up.
19 When my anxious thoughts multiply within me,
Your consolations delight my soul.
20 Can a throne of destruction be allied with You,
One which devises mischief by decree?
21 They band themselves together against the [q]life of the righteous
And condemn the innocent to death.
22 But the Lord has been my stronghold,
And my God the rock of my refuge.
23 He has brought back their wickedness upon them
And will destroy them in their evil;
The Lord our God will destroy them.


One temptation which we may have when approaching God is to expect Him to answer our prayer all at once, on our timing (usually immediately, or at least “very soon”), and in the way we want or think best.   But, God in His total wisdom, knows much better than us the correct way to answer prayer – the perfect way, the perfect timing, and the perfect sequence.  He is lovingly orchestrating good (we could even say “the best”) for us and everyone else involved – including the millions of derivative or interrelated effects which are involved with everything that happens.

So, we must remember that just because God did not answer a prayer in the way which we (in our extremely limited perspective) expected does not mean that He did not answer in exactly the right way.

This is all part of truly learning the admonition in Proverbs 3:5-8


Proverbs 3:5-8

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the Lord and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your body
And refreshment to your bones.



* Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride”.  See here

4 responses

  1. This is such an meaningful blog and it reflects a very mature individual. It will certainly be lovely to have fellowship in the kingdom with brothers and sisters in Christ who demonstrate the author’s level of biblically sound insight . I’d be interested to learn if you agree that pride is at the heart of all the cluster B personality disorders along with various respective combinations of all the cardinal sins. If you would ever care to chat via e-mail please feel free to contact me. I may be able to offer you some wonderful Christian resources on these subjects which may assist you in further developing your blog.
    God Bless.

    • Thanks for your comments, Lisa. I am very sorry that I cannot engage in individual chats due to a heavy workload, but I would be very happy for you to send any resources that you fell would be helpful. You can just send via the comments section on any blog post and I will receive it. If there is anything you send for which you would specific acknowledgement, please let me know. Thank you!

    • Hello again,
      Thanks for your kind response. As far as reconciling secular concepts such as Narcissism with Scripture there is a wonderful website which has a bunch of free resources and books . The authors dismantle a lot of the distortions and misconceptions which are characteristic of the ethos found in modern psychology as well as issues surrounding and related to the study of personality disorders such as narcissism. They really bring clarity to a lot of these issues . I will advise a word of caution to keep in mind as you are reviewing their material. In some instances, I feel that they have swung the pendulum a little too far in the opposite direction. So review their offerings with a critical eye. However what they have to contribute to discussions on the topic of the cure of the soul is very meaningful so it’s totally worth reviewing. Heres the link:

      The website is called PsychoHeresy Awareness ministries and it’s authors are a lovely married couple who themselves were licensed psychologists but left their secular careers to respond to Gods calling .
      I love the content of your blog as I have also been involved in contemplating many of the same considerations for the past several decades. The Lord has a different destiny in mind for me so i was never permitted to stop and document my insights along my journey so I appreciate that someone else has been gifted that opportunity. You are making a lovely contribution to the body of Christ.
      God Bless:-)


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