Healing From Narcissist Abuse* – Turning Tears Into A Life-giving Spring


Psalm 84:5-7

How blessed is the man whose strength is in You,
In whose heart are the highways to Zion!
Passing through the valley of Baca they make it a spring;
The early rain also covers it with blessings.
They go from strength to strength,
Every one of them appears before God in Zion.


The “valley of Baca” is most often understood to be the “Valley of Weeping”.  There are times in our lives when we do go through a period of sorrow and weeping – and suffering at the hands of a narcissist in our life is typically one of those times.


Psalm 84 says that it is actually possible during those times for us to

  • “Make it a spring” – turn our hurt and sorrow into a source of life and vitality for ourselves and those around us
  • “Go from strength to strength” – remain strong and even gain additional strength
  • “Appear before God in Zion” – not lose our faith in God and in His love and goodness


The keys for doing this are found in verse 4 –

  • “Whose strength is in You (God)” – Rather than primarily relying on other sources – which will most likely fail us at some point – looking to God and relying on His strength to uphold us
  • “In whose heart are the highways to Zion” – consistently seeking God, His wisdom, His ways


Our natural instinct is to attempt to scratch out small human solutions to our hurts……but God says that the real key to transforming our hurts into something good is to make Him the heart of the solution.


  • narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here





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