Narcissist Tactics – Fake Repentance (Case Study)


From Cain, the very first narcissist*, narcissists have used incomplete and fake repentance as a tool to avoid consequences of their actions, while not actually giving up their quest for what they want.  It is a tactic for taking off the immediate heat, while avoiding any genuine heart change.


The following is a re-formatted excerpt from “Saul Hunts David”, found at


Saul fake repented with fake tears for personal gain

When Saul “lifted up his voice and wept” (I Samuel 24:16) it was a sickening display of self-pity and relief he wasn’t dead, and had nothing to do with really being sorry for trying to kill David.  Saul’s tears were because he was saved from death, not because he was sorry for trying to kill David.  When Saul claimed he sinned and David was the righteous one, it exactly mirrors what Pharaoh said to Moses.”


“Saul repented to Samuel merely to retain power and gain honor:

“Then Saul said to Samuel, “I have sinned; I have indeed transgressed the command of the LORD and your words, because I feared the people and listened to their voice. … Then he said, “I have sinned; but please honor me now before the elders of my people and before Israel, and go back with me, that I may worship the LORD your God.” (1 Samuel 15:24,30)


“Twice Saul repented to David to make himself look good in front of his soldiers:

“When David had finished speaking these words to Saul, Saul said, “Is this your voice, my son David?” Then Saul lifted up his voice and wept. He said to David, “You are more righteous than I; for you have dealt well with me, while I have dealt wickedly with you. “You have declared today that you have done good to me, that the LORD delivered me into your hand and yet you did not kill me. “For if a man finds his enemy, will he let him go away safely? May the LORD therefore reward you with good in return for what you have done to me this day. “Now, behold, I know that you will surely be king, and that the kingdom of Israel will be established in your hand. “So now swear to me by the LORD that you will not cut off my descendants after me and that you will not destroy my name from my father’s household.”” (1 Samuel 24:16–21)


“Then Saul said, “I have sinned. Return, my son David, for I will not harm you again because my life was precious in your sight this day. Behold, I have played the fool and have committed a serious error.”” (1 Samuel 26:21)


“Saul joins a long list of wicked sinners who put on a good show for personal benefit but are never really sorry.   Notice each time Pharaoh seeks something from the one whom he is repenting:

“Then Pharaoh sent for Moses and Aaron, and said to them, “I have sinned this time; the LORD is the righteous one, and I and my people are the wicked ones. “Make supplication to the LORD, for there has been enough of God’s thunder and hail; and I will let you go, and you shall stay no longer.”” (Exodus 9:27–28)


“Then Pharaoh hurriedly called for Moses and Aaron, and he said, “I have sinned against the LORD your God and against you. “Now therefore, please forgive my sin only this once, and make supplication to the LORD your God, that He would only remove this death from me.”” (Exodus 10:16–17)


And then there’s Esau

“let there be no immoral or godless person like Esau, who sold his own birthright for a single meal. For you know that even afterwards, when he desired to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought for it with tears.” (Hebrews 12:16–17)


Here is a “summary chart of fake repentance and the benefit they sought to gain through their fake tears. Only the wicked would ask for a favor immediately after confessing their sins”:


Who Passage Their repentance What they really wanted
Pharaoh to Moses Exodus 9:27-28 I have sinned, God is holy Stop the hail
Pharaoh to Moses Exodus 10:16–17 I have sinned Remove the death
Esau: Hebrews 12:16–17 sold birthright, sought with tears Wanted his birthright back and the power and money that comes with it.
Saul to Samuel 1 Samuel 15:24,30 I have sinned Retain power. please honor me now before the elders
Saul to David 1 Samuel 24:16-21 Crying he said: I have sinned, you are more righteous than I. Descendants retain power. Promise me you will not kill me or my descendants.
Saul to David 1 Samuel 26:21 I have sinned. Descendants retain power. To make himself look good in front of his soldiers for the second time.


Further comments

  1. “The psychotic and those diagnosed with behaviour associated “mentally illness”, have learned to sin.
    1. Mental illness is a behavour choice, not a bodily disease.
    2. The behaviours associated with mental illness are chosen and practiced in order to gain some personal benefit.
    3. Getting diagnosed with a Mental illness is the world’s way of telling you that others find you are annoying, troublesome, offensive, dependent and cost others time and money.
    4. Those who have been diagnosed with a Mental illness are very quick to say, “I have sinned and I am sorry” but they rarely mean it and use it as a way of regaining your favours and so you will continue to serve them with both time and money. It is a cheap ploy and is pure evil, but it is quite effective to those with little experience these sinful behaviour patterns.
    5. Evil and hypocritical people will often use “instant repentance” and “quick sorry’s” as a way of avoiding punishment, neutralizing anger and erasing their sin through the grace of others.
    6. Saul’s fake tears and repentance for personal gain, is typical of those who are diagnosed with a mental disease*.”


See here for more on what is true repentanceit’s starting point, and dealing with what you might consider to be an unpardonable sin.


  • [Note:  What the above author calls a “mental disease” and what the secular world calls “narcissism” are have the root cause of what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here]


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