Many times in our struggle with a narcissist, they find some little thing wrong with what we have done, how we have done it, or in our attitude. They will use that to attack, condemn, or undermine us. They’re focused on our speck, not their log (Matthew 7:3-5).
But other times, we may find ourselves under attack when we have done nothing wrong.
GOD wants to refine us in the process, but He also can be our defender. We should always examine ourselves, but we can also ask GOD to vindicate us. David knew this, and prayed prayers such as:
The Lord judges the peoples; Vindicate me, O Lord, according to my righteousness and my integrity that is in me.Psalm 7:8
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Vindicate me, O Lord, for I have walked in my integrity, And I have trusted in the Lord without wavering.Psalm 26:1
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When David was fleeing at the hands of one of the narcissists in his life – King Saul – he found himself in the land of the Ziphites. The Ziphites went and told Saul that he was there – putting David at deeper risk. David had done absolutely nothing wrong to land himself in that situation. What could he do?
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He prayed this:
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(“For the choir director; on stringed instruments. A Maskil of David, when the Ziphites came and said to Saul, “Is not David hiding himself among us?”)
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Save me, O God, by Your name, And vindicate me by Your power.Psalm 54:1.
In the end, GOD is far bigger than the narcissist in our life. HE is the one that can rescue us and save us – He can do far more than we ever could.
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In the end, GOD did save David out of Saul’s hands. Saul died, and David became king – but GOD did it, not David.
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