It Hurts Worse When Its A “Friend”

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Psalm 55

12ย For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, Then I could bear it; Nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, Then I could hide myself from him. 13ย But it is you, a man my equal, My companion and my familiar friend; 14ย We who had sweet fellowship together

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Our most painful encounter with a narcissist will very likely be with someone close to us. ย And especially with someone we thought was a friend. ย One reason is that when we expected someone to act like a friend and in exchange were stabbed in the back, it is a painful betrayal. ย The other reason, as David said in verse 12, is that when we are more entangled in a relationship it is harder to avoid them – bringing us painful reminders more frequently.

. David goes on to describe their smooth words which disguise the evil in their hearts .
19ย God will hear and answer themโ€” Even the one who sits enthroned from of oldโ€” Selah. With whom there is no change, And who do not fear God. 20ย He has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him; He has violated his covenant. 21ย His speech was smoother than butter, But his heart was war; His words were softer than oil, Yet they were drawn swords. .

But as David reminds himself and says to the Lord at the end of Psalm 55

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22ย Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken. 23ย But You, O God, will bring them down to the pit of destruction; Men of bloodshed and deceit will not live out half their days. But I will trust in You.

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