How blessed is the man who has made the Lord his trust, And has not turned to the proud, nor to those who lapse into falsehood.
Many, O Lord my God, are the wonders which You have done, And Your thoughts toward us; There is none to compare with You. Psalm 40:4-5
In our zeal to get something done, or out of desperation to resolve a situation we often look for help in the wrong places. And the result may be that we find ourselves worse off than before. This can be especially true of reaching out to narcissists (insolent pride / proud / haughty / scoffers) for help. There are practical reasons why God warns us not to reach out to narcissists:
- The narcissist will many times “get it wrong” (see here and here)
- God is fundamentally opposed to a narcissist’s pride, so HE is not likely to bless the work of their hands (James 4 and here)
- Narcissists are unreliable (Psalm 5)
- Narcissists have a self-centered agenda, so they will turn things around from helping you to somehow helping or glorifying themselves – while making a big show about helping (Proverbs 25:14 and here and here)
- Narcissists will likely try to take over – but only to the extent that they can command you what to do, not to the extent of actually helping (see here)
- The Narcissist will likely create much more conflict than any actual help they provide (see here)
- Narcissists will make sure to tell you that they themselves would never have gotten into the situation that you’re in (see here)
But there are also other reasons “why” God wants to turn to Him in our time of need, rather than to an arrogant human. He is constantly seeking to help us further see and understand His unlimited love, knowledge, wisdom, and faithfulness.
“Many O Lord My God are the wonders which You have done” is a wild understatement. David is saying, “You have already worked an infinite amount of miracles”.
God has already demonstrated His unlimited ability to work, so why should we go for a false source of help?
Please see here for initial steps to peace with God.
- Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here