We all come across LOTS of things in today’s media environment. I was just reading about a very public fairy-tale courtship, romance, and wedding – with people glowing about all the positives. But a few people who knew the bride well said very early on that “she is not what she seems”. And guess what, over time she revealed herself to be a big-time classic narcissist – everything is all about her, she’s always the victim, etc. etc. She also undermined existing relationships the husband had with his family, and trashed his family in public. The secular literature says that you cannot “diagnose” a narcissist from a distance, and there is probably some truth to that, but sometimes these public celebrities are so obvious you can’t help it.
Even though she hid her N traits at the beginning while she was trying to “seal the deal”, once married she began to reveal her true nature. This reminded me of the following in Proverbs,
He who hates disguises it with his lips,
But he lays up deceit in his heart.
When he speaks graciously, do not believe him,
For there are seven abominations in his heart.
Though his hatred covers itself with guile,
His wickedness will be revealed before the assembly.
What’s in people’s hearts ALWAYS reveals itself eventually. One with insolent pride – a narcissist – will always ultimately reveal their true hearts. Jesus said the same thing when he said,
the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart.
As a side note, the entire second half of Proverbs 26 is filled with descriptions of narcissistic traits. Take a look.