4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband,
But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.
The first line of Proverbs 12:4 is a marvelous, positive example – but since we are studying narcissism in particular we are going to focus here on the second line.
While a contentious wife may operate in private, a shaming wife operates publicly, putting her husband to shame in front of other people. There are two ways that a wife could do this. One way would be inappropriate public behavior that dishonors both herself and her husband. You can easily think of your own examples, and they are not necessarily the actions of a narcissist / one with insolent pride.
The second way a wife could shame her husband is through the narcissistic move of denigrating (ie – putting down, criticizing) her husband in public. Why might she do this? Continue reading