1 Timothy 1:5
5 But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.
In the middle of our struggles with the N in our lives, we are typically focused on simply surviving the situation. It seems incredible to think in terms of thriving. And even more incredible to think in terms of moving past bitterness toward becoming a more loving person ourselves – not just toward the N, but people in general.
However, God in His goodness toward us is intending to use our struggle to actually build in us a greater capability and capacity for love. As heaven is a world of love, this capacity for love is not just for this world, but also for the one to come (heaven). A greater capacity for love is not equivalent to being more of a doormat for your N, but is instead a broad-based foundation for a more meaningful and fruitful life in all its aspects.