One subject we have not talked about much is the difference between overt and covert narcissism. At its most basic:
- An overt narcissist is an in-your-face braggart and bully
- A covert narcissist plays the victim, and uses manipulation and deceit to get what they want,
There is not a clear line between the two – an overt narcissist may use manipulation and deceit, and a covert narcissist may be a bully if they get the chance.
As the covert narcissist is far more subtle, they are harder to spot. How can you recognize one in your midst? Look for non-stop drama and wide-spread conflict that you can’t quite identify nor be sure of the source.
Proverbs 22:10 makes clear that scoffers – a Biblical term for narcissist – are a source of contentiousness:
Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out, Even strife and dishonor will cease.Proverbs 22:10.
For lack of wood the fire goes out, And where there is no whisperer, contention quiets down.Proverbs 26:20.