.[Note: This post is based mostly on observation and logically connecting dots, not a direct Biblical foundation]
Many of the posts here relate to how narcissists (scoffers, haughty, those with insolent pride) relate to non-narcissists, whom they are able to manipulate and push around in order to achieve getting what they want and their “rightful” place of superiority and/or dominance. But what happens when narcissists come up against each other?
I have observed that the following can take place:
1 – Initially they play a game of flattery with each other. At this point, they’re not really engaging in a contest for dominance, although in the middle of their flattery each narcissist is likely dropping hints to the other narcissist about their “greatness”. Even though each N may know that the flattery is fake and a possible trap, they accept it because it appeals to their pride.
Psalm 12:2-4 – They speak falsehood to one another; With flattering lips and with a double heart they speak. May the Lord cut off all flattering lips, The tongue that speaks great things; Who have said, “With our tongue we will prevail;
Our lips are our own; who is lord over us?”
Proverbs 29:5 – A man who flatters his neighbor Is spreading a net for his steps.
– A lying tongue hates those it crushes, And a flattering mouth works ruin.
The N’s are most likely knowingly allowing themselves to be baited, probably thinking they are smart enough to escape any consequences.
2 – They may attempt to use their standard tactics, but I speculate that this is not likely since they both know the game each other is playing. Therefore, since their normal schemes won’t work to gain an advantage, they would either
2A – Avoid each other, and an outright conflict – this would be based on both N’s not seeing much value in winning that particular power play (see below) vs. the effort required. In other words, their greatness means they have bigger fish to fry, and this “little” skirmish is not worth bothering with
2B – Engage in a pure power play. In this case both of the N’s feel compelled that their position is inherently right either based on its merits or their personal “worthiness”. Therefore, in their mind and heart its correct and right for them and their position/goals to prevail. As it is right for them to win/achieve dominance, they are unwilling to cede any ground to anyone. And, since to an N the anything goes in the pursuit of their superiority, its a fight with no “rules” – anything goes. A pure power play means a fight until one of the two N’s comes out victorious. It could be a simple fight where the N with the strongest position easily prevails and vanquishes his opponent, or it could be a protracted contest of equal power that focuses on tactics.
There may be a lot of collateral damage in the fight (ie – others getting hurt in the process), but the N’s absolutely do not care about that (see here). The only thing that counts is their winning. If you see 2 N’s in a fight, get out of the way so that you do not become part of the collateral damage.
You’ve heard of “power politics” – it’s one example of a pure power play.
Even though we need to understand scoffers and their tactics, we are not to be like them
– “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves; so be shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves.
God has a different way of dealing with N’s (those with insolent pride) than for us to just engage in a human on human power play. HE is in the equation with us, which changes everything. We will dig into this much deeper as we move forward.