An Update

You may have noticed that I have gone silent on this blog for the past few months.  The reason is that I have been working very hard on a new book, and despite my “good” intentions have not been able to work on new blog posts while trying to get this book out (in addition to my other responsibilities).

I am not a very efficient writer, and keep blowing past my self-imposed deadlines.  At this point I hope to release “Escape From Futility” somewhere in the late October to mid-November range, and will announce it here.  After that I hope to spend more time on this blog.  There is the odd chance that I will post here between now and then, but wouldn’t hold my breath on that one.

Thank you for your patience!


The Range Of Perspectives On Narcissism

If you’ve found this blog, there is a good chance you – or someone you care about – has experienced some of the more damaging consequences of genuine narcissism.

Maybe you didn’t realize you were dealing with a narcissist at first, but the pain and damage this selfish, arrogant, condescending, and domineering person caused might have driven you to search for answers about what was going on, and how to deal with them.  As you searched online or in books, perhaps you read more about who this type of person is, and how he or she operates.  You likely have read explanations on causes, and advice on how to deal with this “narcissist.”

Those looking for help with understanding and dealing with a narcissist have typically turned to the following five sources:

    • Professional psychologists or psychiatrists
    • The pop-psychology world of books, blogs, self-help forums, etc.
    • Christian psychologists
    • Biblical counselors[i]
    • A shoulder to cry on (i.e. – a caring friend)

Of the above, by far the most commonly sought sources have been the world of pop-psychology and caring friends.  My own journey of discovery started with asking God for “help!”, but my first stop on the road was the world of pop-psychology.  However, God soon showed me that He has something to say on the subject. Continue reading

Boundlessly Good, Continued


As I mentioned previously, the book “Boundlessly Good” is a modernized version of Stephen Charnock’s classic chapter on the goodness of God.  As this blog has publishing rights to that book, I have created a second blog that gives small excerpts from the book every few days.  It is a way to read the key excerpts from Boundlessly Good in bite size chunks, and thus rather painlessly read a Christian classic over time.


The blog is called “Boundlessly Good”.  I invite you to take a look.

Is Narcissism* On The Increase?


When you look around, it surely looks as though narcissism* is on the rise.  People seem to be increasingly selfish, self-centered, and arrogant, while common civility is on the decline.  We can debate whether we are “in the last days”, but the description in 2 Timothy 3 appears very close to what is currently taking place…..


2 Timothy 3

But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these….


……. 7 (they are) always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.  (see Prov 14:6)


8b so these men also oppose the truth, men of depraved mind, rejected in regard to the faith. But they will not make further progress; for their folly will be obvious to all……..


13 But evil men and impostors will proceed from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived…….. 


If it sometimes seems as though things are getting worse, the Bible tells us that in the last days things actually will get worse – including from those pretending to be “religious”.  But the writer Paul goes on to give some proscriptive advice to the young man he was mentoring (and through this to us) …..


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