Why God “Allows” Narcissists To Wreak Havoc – Foundations – Viewing Our Situation Through The Lens of God’s Goodness


Psalm 31:19

19 How great is Your goodness,
Which You have stored up for those who fear You,
Which You have wrought for those who take refuge in You,
Before the sons of men!


[See here for the road map for this discussion on why God allows narcissists to wreak havoc]


Matthew 7:11

11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children,how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!


Lamentations 3:22-25

22 The Lord’s lovingkindnesses indeed never cease,
For His compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
24 “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I have hope in Him.”
25 The Lord is good to those who wait for Him,
To the person who seeks Him.



  1. God’s purposes, plans, and providences in our lives ultimately flow out of his divine nature, and since
  2. His divine nature includes being completely wise, good, loving, and just (among many other things), and since
  3. He has the power to implement what He decides, and the ability to use evil for accomplishing good


Then, we can safely assume that everything that comes our way is not just allowed, but designed by God for our good.  So, rather than seeing things that happen to us as either “good” or “bad”, we can safely view everything that happens to us as “good”.  The only question is “how is God being good to us in this particular situation”?


That is what we intend to explore in the next phase of this discussion on why God allows Narcissists to wreak havoc.  The intent is to  move from “why is God doing this to me?” and “how do I escape this?” to “how is God intending this bad situation for my good?” and “how do I wisely deal with it?”.  And, ultimately, to trust Him even when we cannot figure out what He is doing.


Viewing the situation with the narcissist in our life from this vantage point will radically change how we approach it, and provide a much better foundation for correctly acting toward this “N”.   Seeing things clearly will help us develop a wise proactive plan toward the Narcissist, as well as reacting to their moves peaceably.  It may still be painful, but at least its not pain with no purpose.


Believe it or not, God desires good for people (especially to those who know Him).  He wants only good for you.



Psalm 119:68

68 You are good and do good;
Teach me Your statutes.




  • Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here
  • For more on the first step for knowing God personally, see here



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  1. Pingback: Foundations – Boundlessly Good « Biblical Perspectives On Narcissism

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