Why God “Allows” N’s To Wreak Havoc – To Motivate Us To Seek The Ultimate Answer


2 Samuel 22:7 / Psalm 18:6 (the same verse in 2 places)

In my distress I called upon the Lord,
And cried to my God for help;
He heard my voice out of His temple,
And my cry for help before Him came into His ears.


Psalm 34:4-6

I sought the Lord, and He answered me,
And delivered me from all my fears.
They looked to Him and were radiant,
And their faces will never be ashamed.
This poor man cried, and the Lord heard him
And saved him out of all his troubles.


When things are going “well”, our natural inclination is to forget God, to not think that we need Him.  We naturally tend to take His goodness for granted.  An analogy would be teenagers that simply assume that their parents’ housing, food, access to a car, etc  will be there, without really having an interest in spending time with their parents – they just use their parents’ stuff to have a good time, without caring much about their relationship with their parents.


We tend to seek answers.  God wants us to seek Him, because HE is the answer


Matthew 11:28-30

28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is [b]easy and My burden is light.”


Answers are part of it, but it starts with the relationship.  We seek Him, bring our problems to Him, and then He walks us through it, and walks through it with Him.  And as He guides, directs, counsels, and comforts us, answers come out of the process.

Back to the example of the parents with their teenager…….. wise and loving parents will understand that free resources with no strings attached is ultimately harmful to the teenager.  So, they will constantly work to make sure that their “goodness” to their teenager is combined with proper discipline and boundaries.

While dealing with a narcissist is highly painful, God sometimes will lovingly allow us to be “forced” to wrestle with one in order to motivate us toward HIM, knowing that the relationship with Him is ultimately the best and most important thing for us.

An excellent devotional from John Piper underscores this.



How Well Do You Know God? (John Piper)

“Behold, God is great, and we know him not; the number of his years is unsearchable.” (Job 36:26)

It is impossible to know God too well.

He is the most important person who exists. And this is because he made all others, and any importance they have is owing to him.

Any strength or intelligence or skill or beauty they have comes from him. On every scale of excellence, he is infinitely greater than the best person you ever knew or ever heard of.

Being infinite, he is inexhaustibly interesting. It is impossible, therefore, that God be boring. His continual demonstration of the most intelligent and interesting actions is volcanic.

As the source of every good pleasure, he himself pleases fully and finally. If that’s not how we experience him, we are either dead or sleeping.

It is therefore astonishing how little effort is put into knowing God.

It’s as though the President of the United States came to live with you for a month, and you only said hello in passing every day or so. Or as if you were flown at the speed of light for a couple of hours around the sun and the solar system, and instead of looking out the window, you played a computer game. Or as if you were invited to watch the best actors, singers, athletes, inventors, and scholars perform their best, but you declined to go so you could watch the TV season’s final soap.

Let us pray that our infinitely great God would open our eyes and hearts to see him and seek to know him more.


Hebrews 11:6

And without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those who seek Him.





  • Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here


Putting “Biblical Perspectives On Narcissism” Into Perspective





One response

  1. Matthew 18:17
    “If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.”

    As I ponder this on this I wonder how does the world would treat a pagan and a tax collector?

    Then I wonder how should a person full of the Holy Spirit (Gal 5:22-23) that is a child of God (Gal 3:26) who knows their Father died for the sins of not just them, but the whole world (John 3:16) do? A God who wants all his children to come to him (1 Timothy 2:3-4) and also for us to be his disciple (Matthew 4:19-20). How should we be treating these pagans and tax collectors (Matthew 5:3-16, Matthew 5:19, Matthew 5:39-48?

    Maybe if we look inside ourselves we will find a little narcissism in all of us. Just maybe God who uses all for good, uses a narcissist to amplify what is wrong in the church so we look closer at ourselves and change. Maybe A narcissist is a gift from God to bring glory to him and to sharpen us (Proverbs 27:17) and the narcissist are doing the very thing they were prepared to do advance. The bible says the good we we do on our own is like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). But more than likely what is being done is the good of God working through us (Philippians 2: 12-13) and we, not even aware of what he (God) is doing, as we go about doing the good things he has set before us to do (Ephesians 2:10). None of us are righteous of our own doing, but are robed in Christ’s righteousness (Matthew 5:20). Christ daily undeserving pours out on us mercy, grace and forgiveness should we not do the same?

    The narcissist in my life proclaims Christ crucified for the only way of Salvation by faith and by grace, but has no idea of how their behavior is reeking havoc in their own, and others lives. But on the other hand, I have become a better person because of them and have to praise God for them.

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