Dealing With Narcissists* – David’s Reminders To Himself

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Psalm 62

62 My soul waits in silence for God only;
From Him is my salvation.
He only is my rock and my salvation,
My stronghold; I shall not be greatly shaken.

How long will you assail a man,
That you may murder him, all of you,
Like a leaning wall, like a tottering fence?
They have counseled only to thrust him down from his high position;
They delight in falsehood;
They bless with their mouth,
But inwardly they curse. Selah.

My soul, wait in silence for God only,
For my hope is from Him.
He only is my rock and my salvation,
My stronghold; I shall not be shaken.
On God my salvation and my glory rest;
The rock of my strength, my refuge is in God.
Trust in Him at all times, O people;
Pour out your heart before Him;
God is a refuge for us. Selah.

Men of low degree are only vanity and men of rank are a lie;
In the balances they go up;
They are together lighter than breath.
10 Do not trust in oppression
And do not vainly hope in robbery;
If riches increase, do not set your heart upon them.

11 Once God has spoken;
Twice I have heard this:
That power belongs to God;
12 And lovingkindness is Yours, O Lord,
For You recompense a man according to his work.

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How did David deal with the narcissists (“they delight in falsehood” – see here) in his life?

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  1. He reminded himself that God was the ultimate One who could deliver him and keep grounded in the midst of his struggle with evil people
  2. He told himself that he should not verbally fight, but trust God to work on his behalf
  3. He clarified for himself who he was dealing with – “they delight in falsehood” (a key narcissist trait – see here)
  4. He reminded himself again that God was his real “port in the storm” in dealing with these people
  5. He told himself that God has the ultimate power, not people
  6. He reviewed that God will have the last word – God will judge everyone, including the narcissist, for how they live their life on earth

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*Narcissism is the modern colloquial term for what the Bible calls “insolent pride” – see here

One response

  1. I really like this because I actually took the entire week off from talking to a certain individual because although he calls himself a Christian he has contempt for many others in the body of Christ. Often times he would run off with speeches that would not allow any comment from me dominating the conversation. His long talks would propose his Viewpoint about God and the way he operates in the word Pharisee came up in my spirit several times during his one-sided conversation.

    I also noticed he’s a big name caller when he heard the type of church I go to he had several contemptuous names to call it. In actuality his concept of God is very skewed and and bordering on legalistic without the power of the Holy Spirit. It reminded me of the scripture having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof that’s basically where he is.
    I took a week off told him not to call or contact me in order to pray about it thinking that I might pray for him, but the scripture that came to mind was leave them alone for they are the blind leading the blind.

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